What do Men Want to Hear
90There are certain phrases that most men would love to hear to feel appreciated
What do men like ?
Unlike what we might be brought up to believe, men have emotional needs too and there are certain phrases that most men would love to hear to feel appreciated. Unfortunately for fear of sounding silly, for pride or timidity we don’t tell our men often enough how much we appreciate them.
Can you remember when was the last time you sincerely thanked your man for something he did for you? Or can you honestly say when was the last time you gave a compliment to your boyfriend or husband? Once in a long term relationship, most women have a tendency to take their men for granted.
What do Men Want to Hear ?
With this in mind I have collected a few phrases that I think men would like to hear from their women.
Come on, join in and tell us which are the phrases that you would like to hear the most from your woman. And you girls tell us which are in your opinion the most romantic, complimentary or sexy thing you’ve ever told your man.
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Phrases for the romantic:
“I like you”. To whisper these little 3 words with a languid accent has an incomparable power over a man’s ego. We will hug you and be proud of having you by his side.
“I trust you, I know you can do it”. This is a really magic phrase it proves the confidence you have in him, in his physical and mental strength. Men love this one as it makes them feel almighty powerful. Also you can use this phrase when you want your man to do something for you. For example if you want him to change the wallpaper in your room or take care of your cat while you go on vacation, all you need do is to whisper this phrase and he will be proud to do whatever you are asking him to do.
- "You're the best". I don’t think this one needs explaining.
- " I am so lucky I met you" For him this means “you are marvellous, absolutely great and more important you make love like a God !”
- “What would I do without you” this is another ego booster. This is the perfect phrase for those situations when you are in trouble and he saves you. Like for example the day your car breaks down and he drives you to your workplace, or the afternoon when your nanny is sick and he offers to look after the children while you go out shopping with your girlfriends.
- "We are a team, baby!", this is perfect to let him know that you support him, that you are a couple and his aspirations are important for you.
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For the more intimate moments
- "You drive me crazy, I am mad about you" Another phrase that does not need any explanation.
- “You are so hot”
- "What would please you tonight?" This is perhaps the most aphrodisiac phrase you can tell your man; but be careful if you say it you must be prepared to assume your responsibility and try to please him. This phrase is open to all kind of “indecent proposals” are you ready for them.?
- “I had an erotic dream and you were in it…” If he asks you to tell him about it, say that you will show him instead!
- "Spank me Daddy"
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“Shouldn't you be down at the bar with your buddies?”
“You're so sexy when you're hungover.”
“I'd rather watch football and drink beer with you than go shopping.”
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It is important that your compliments relate to his attributes.
Before you say any of these phrases to your man take into account his attributes. Is he awfully handsome? Or is he very brainy? Is he good at working with his hands? It is important that your compliments relate to his attributes. Give him recognition and appreciate his qualities because normally no one else does. At work, more than likely he is always stressed or trying to meet a deadline and no one tells him how good he is at his profession; all he gets from his superiors is pressure. It is up to you to pick up his qualities and compliment him about them. In return he will feel appreciated and loved and will love you more for it.
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Asher Fallen :"I would agree that hearing any of those things from the right woman would be simply awesome, but, call me crude, spank me Daddy works coming from almost any woman."
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What do men wnt to hear? Start with the truth and end with the truth and you have it covered. David Russell
"I love, and accept you, just the way you are!" :P :)
I think men need a hub like this, too...
Great hub!! I thought they only wanted to hear, "Here is your beer, Honey."
It is always nice to show appreciate for someone, especially if they thoughtful little things for us.
Yeah baby, few lovign and kind words wouldn't hurt anybody :) Thank you for supporting our gender...
I think we all need appreciation. Men and women.
eovery:trouble can be fun :)
Russell-D: that is a very good point, I believe that when a compliment is not sincere is just the same as not saying anything, and we can always feel whether it is sincere or not.
advisor4qb: maybe...
Triplet Mom: there you are, now you know...
SweetiePie: that's right, it doesn't matter who (your partner, your parents, your children or friends) it is always nice to let them know how much they are appreaciated.
shamelabboush: not just supporting but loving :)
Sandyspider: yes, of course we both need apprecition but most people have a tendency to concentrate on the emotional needs of women and completely forget that men too have emotional needs.
Everyone likes a compliment or to be given a free run now and then, men and women. You have got some good ones here, I think you would win most men over using these.
i believe hubby likes it when i tell him 'you're the best'. it's not even romantic, it's erotic for him, i think he he
some women think men doesn't care about what we want to tell them, but it's not true. once in a while, they want to feel 'very good'.
Very nice hub. I hope the ladies are reading. This is a hub based on experience and written from the bottom of the heart. Thanks for sharing.
Hi BrianS: Yes, everyone likes a compliment, but for some reason women expect them and do not think too much about giving them...
bingskee: that's a really good one and it is suitable for many, many situations...
Philipo: Yes, I wrote this based on my experience. If you treat someone with respect and love that is exactly what you get in return. "Spoil your man and he will spoil you" is what I say to my girlfriends.
France will always be intriguing & be known for its food, romance and social gatherings.good hub.
Awesome stuff this. Cause I hate to admit it, but I do think that we women tend to start taking our men for granted after a while. Of course they do that too sometimes but that's another story for another day. It's all about the golden rule isn't it...golder rule = communication.
I'd be more than happy with each and everyone of the compliments you've listed. And I wouldn't mind Triplet Mom's, "Here is your beer, honey" accompanying each one! :)
ocbill: France will always have a special place in my heart.
Um...yeah: It always amazes me when I see some of my friends giving orders to their husbands, or even forbidding them from doing this or the next thing. Relationships are about communication and reciprocity.
Jaspal: "Here is your beer honey" and "don't forget to call your pals, they said they'll be waiting for you at the golf club" :) A short sentence that can bring a man to heaven...
Most of the statements on your list are indeed good. A woman that says those to her man on occasion will re-ignite his passions for her so it is a two-fold benefit. The same goes for the men out there.
may try a few of these especially now the men are agreeing with you...... see if anything happens when i flood my man with compliments....
Great Hub Princessa with good accurate advise. I just heard last night on TV, that good negotiators start off with a compliment. So, if this works well in business with men, it makes sense that it will enhance one's relationships also. Great idea!
wesleycox: That's right, being nice with your man makes him want to be nice to you too. If you say something nice, he is going to say something nice, if you are criticizing him all the time he will resent it and criticize you in return. So it really pays to try to be nice.
poetlorraine : Just remember to be sincere, and timely, otherwise he can take it as manipulation. Wait for the right moment and surprise him with a nice phrase.
Money Glitch: Thanks, really it works at all levels.
What would I like to hear?
Silence, sometimes! ;)
But I like some of those you already mentioned!
Hmmmmmm, great tips here. Wish I have the courage to say some of them :D. Compared to America and Europe, we are kind of conservative here. But hey, you gave me some ideas here :D. Thanks Princessa.
Dinners ready! that one always works for me! Well, it would work if we were talking to each other! hehe
My boy likes to hear naughty things but he always cracks for the romantic phrases.
They want to hear anything that makes them feel good. Same for women. It's really that simple. But it is often not what you say but how you say it and the actions you create to support the statement.
chenmikehk: thanks for the remainder. I think that is a very important one.
emievil: once you have said it a couple of times it gets easier to do it again. The main thing is to be sincere, to really mean what you are saying. It is always easy to say "I love you" to some one yo DO love than to sameone you don't.
mega1: LOL very good point!
Anath: that's right, naugthy is great but romantic is what makes their knees go soft :)
Mike: Yes, a phrase needs to be backed up by actions, otherwise it is worthless. Thanks for the comment.
French men are awesome..girls are mad about them.. nice hub..
Great advice. I love men and I love to love men! Im always looking form pointers to make them happy. Thanks
I think these work more with women than men...
Women gotta be women and show love to men...
A warm smile in the morning and a simple hug can speak more than words...
You have beautifully spied over the wishes of men,princessa!
When you say "Men" without qualification, you men all men.
I don't think there are any phrases that apply or will be appreciated by all men. It's all depends on who the individual man is, his background, level of maturity, values, needs, etc. It also depends on who the individual woman is who's saying these phrases to her particular man, her level of maturity, how well she really knows him, his needs, what he needs to hear at that particular time, etc.
But as far these phrases in general being something for readers to look at and enjoy in a kind of pop psychology way, they're cool!
But this subject can be much deeper than it appears on the surface. Other than that, this is a fun hub!
I am a firm believer that what comes out of your mouth, makes a big difference in you relationship. Your man needs to hear these things..... Thanks Princessa....
nice hubs(s) about men :D, princessa
yes "" I am so lucky I met you" is a killer...
i actually like (dinner is ready)...
Wonderful collection. I believe many of these sayings are good to the other partner in either direction that they may flow. To edify: to raise up one another for the greater good. Enjoyed reading this. Thanks
hmmm... how about "here's the remote,honey" ha
great hub!
"....she was my college roommate but left before getting her degree to pursue her modeling career. Do you mind if she sleeps over a couple of nights while she is town? I guess she can share our bed since we are tight on space"
Nice hub.
This Hub is great! Men love to hear these things!! Especially the " What would i do without you" one..i believe this phrase makes men feel so warm inside. Like they wear the pants in the relationship... even if you do.
please honey can we talk later?
Ya learn something everyday, Anath has a boy! LOL And you Princessa are a hottie so naughty. Spank me daddy is my favorite of the ones you gave here, but I prefer, kiss my toes again like you do so well. That one really get me in the mood.
I think most men really just want to hear "here's dinner"...lol
And they want a lady who is ready to get in the sack as much as they are!
Im not so concerned about what men want to hear,
Im more concerned about their hearing,..
as I have learnt, women are not nagging,
they are just not being heard...
If a man bothered to listen, he might find that after hearing what he needed to hear, he might hear a little of what he would want to hear...
simple and logical !!!
Thanks everyone for all your comments and suggestions. I'll be adding a little extra paragraph with your favourite phrases.
great hub. It is really nice to her simple compliment's more times then not there better then presents
I think a woman should be firm with her man, like an old-fashioned school teacher, particularly in the bedroom.
A phrase such as, "We are going to do this again and again until we get it just right!" goes down very well with most men.
Great hub by the way!
Hi Rik: I never thought about that one... thanks for the advice I am going to try it ASAP to see how it goes, it sounds like fun assured :-)
Good post. You are absolutely right about the lack of appreciation (from both genders). Encouragement always helps!
jpauling352: I believe that life would be much easier if we were to appreciate more the people around us. Sometimes we just take for granted all those people who love us and fail to let them know that we DO care about them. It doesn't hurt a sincere word of appreciation every now and again. After all... most of the time you get back what we give!
Spank me Daddy? Hahaha that is a classic!
cindyvine: LOL... it works ;-)
Well, send me a man and I'll try it out!
Men are very inhibited by the increasing amount of technology women use to satisfy themselves. Modern vibrators such as the 'Super Delux Rabbit Mark 9' make men feel inadequate.
So why not toss your favourite pleasure givers in the bin in front of him and say seductively something like, "Darling, you are so much more satisfying than these trivial battery powered toys..."
Once he has made love to you and gone to the pub or bar you can always retrieve said device from the bin for a secret encore!
My husband and I have been together for about 20 years. We have been married for 15 of those. Weve had some rough times together but never between us. It has always been outside problems never relationship. I worry at times that I may get to busy or involved in other parts of life and forget to tell him how wonderful he is. Thats when I not only make a mental note to tell him more, but I try to do some little special thing for him. We have a great relationship always have. But anyone in a longterm relationship needs to keep in mind that we change. Our needs change, our bodies change, our thoughts change, and I think all the changes make it even more important to say those special words. Give a bigger longer kiss. Let your man know you are still attracted to him. He needs it too.
Great hub!
I often tells my hubby that
"You are so special"
"You are the best"
plus some things I won't say on here.. which often cracks him up...
cindyvine: I am sure you have plenty to choose from over there... don't be greedy my friend ;-)
Rik Ravado: LOL that is a really good one... I am ashamed I didn't think about it myself. That is exactly why we need you men to say this kind of "eye opening" things to us.
Tsawasi: I am happy to hear that this has worked for you over the years. Like you say, it is important to let your partner know that despite the years (and obvious physical changes) you still find him attractive and still love him.
Info help: thanks!
Segreen: thanks for sharing.
definitely the truth first and foremost.
fropower: Yes, the truth is essential. A compliment or a nice phrase is worthless if it is not sincere.
Wow great hub! It's so hilarious. Do you have any more jokes?
your an amazing writter good job, I learned alot from your hub thank you
Different men are motivated in differing ways. We men are no different than women. Everyone is unique and what may turn one guy on could turn another man off. Depending on past experiences and events, a man may fantasize, as Walter Mitty did. "The Seven Year Itch" also exemplified this. Some men think of doing the procreative thing in the light as kinky where other men may grave borderline danger. Young men have such a high libido, he simply is commanded by physiology to stray. Us older men tend to be more cognitively receptive yet less energy, which women see as a lack of interest. To each thier own and in a free society we are not always free.
"...I didn't really forget my watch, I just wanted to see your face one more time before I started my work day.."
I think this phrase says it all, "Thank you for always being the best part of my day!" (You can use it if you want.)
I'm a woman and would be happy to hear any of these from my husband (including things like 'shouldn't you be down at the bar with your buddies') Maybe compliments aren't as gendered as you suggest!
I love this Hub! I can tell you, as a manly man, that you are so right with your phrases a man longs to hear. I especially like tips for what the "Down to Earth Man" yearns to hear. :D
I will add that I have never heard "spank me." I have heard "pull my hair!" and "bite me!" Is that the same thing?
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MEN LIKE TO HEAR WOMEN VOICE ...LIKE ME
You gotta go to you tube and search for the Cameron Diaz film " The Sweetest? Thing ". The " Penis Song " explains men obsession with being the biggest! Its a hilarious dance song number. Now, guys under 40 ( that's age ), I can understand. We older guys have a different take on what women want. It's called active listening!
"Spank me Daddy" - LOL
Years ago, even before I married I heard a message on love and respect. The main point of it was that the basic need of a man is respect and the basic need of a woman is to feel loved. I agree! I have never forgotten it and have tried to let my husband know I respect him for being a very wise man in every way. Respect goes a long way and I feel he loves me unconditionally. We have been married for 36 years and I still honor him respect his this man of charecter and he still makes me feel secure in his love.
Great hub. I think the information you present is very true! Men like to know that they are needed, esp. by women.
A great read! :)
Thanks for all your suggestions guys!
i very much enjoyed reading it.... yes this is very true, i have seen that women very rare tell their men that they are very nice and all.... but i often tell these things to my husband and he loves all this very very much to hear... and touchwood we are in a very happy relationship...... everyone should tell these things to their spouse often bcoz this makes your relation very strong and happy... :)
Thanks for writing this hub Princessa... :)
heem.....
i'll try this great hub at home....
thanks princessa
Great hub. But I think the more important question for Men is, what do we need to do to hear these comments more often!
Suppers ready.
Very nice to be reminded and encouraged to give men some kindness now and then! Sometimes we women can be pretty tough on the guys!
I think men need a hub like this, too...
I love you, your my best friend that would make me feel great to hear that. To know your not only lovers but best friends too.
I can say for sure that we don't like to hear, "I just don't feel the same way anymore." (I'm not bitter...)
Men want to hear take me right now daddy lol. And I have dinner ready its your favorite lol. Great hub, nice tips!
Well, my boyfriend is special. He's like this stoic candy with an emotional soft squishy core. Normally he's very quiet and won't tell me if he's sad, but I can tell he is. Usually, it takes genuine compliments to cheer him up, but what to do when you can't compliment him because it'd be obvious you were just trying to cheer him up? Usually he really likes to hear "I love you" but what makes him more happy is, "You make me so happy," and "I trust you more than anyone else in the world," and even, "You know you're my best friend, right?" To my boyfriend, my happiness and trust of him and my expression of that seem to make him feel complete. That means more to him than sensual statements.
I really enjoyed your hub.
I think the magic word you cant go wrong with is 'yes'!
;)
I think I will try some of these out on my man. lol
Great Hub. I tell my husband all the time when he has done something nice how much I appreciate him and I will often catch him off guard by complimenting him and thanking him just for being him. I have also told his parents that they did a great job raising him too...never a bad idea to get in good with the in-laws ;)
hmm.... i like it... so sweet n romantic :)
I'm your fan! Love your hubs! Your joy and love for life shines forth
Men really arn't that hard to understand. its more about what we want them to be like.
I am a man, and believe I am in the majority of men, in basically thinking about "physical things" (sexual) while for women it's emotional, lingering gazes etc.
For me, it's about "the tease" without being slutty and only during those intimate moments.
How about "I want you"? That is always helpful...
Another great hub. I am running to tell my man how much I love him. Here's to the great, underappreciated men everywhere, and may the women in their lives step up their demonstations of appreciation.
Happy Hubbing.
Although the last was what my man most wants to hear, I have always found the first to be the most important.
Great work!
anuritasingh: thanks for reading, commenting and sharing your experiences. I cannot stop emphazising how important is to let your partner know that he/she is important for you. Like you have experienced, complimenting your other half forms part of a happy relationship because you feel special and appreciated.
shangkay99: yes, try it... "things can only get better..."
Cosmic_Funk: that is a very interesting question. We cannot complment our partners if they do not give us any reason for it, otherwise the compliment would sound false.
oldenuf2nobetter: I think that was Fred Flinstone favourite phrase wasn't it :) Thanks for sharing.
kartika damon: yes sometimes we don't show our love and appreciation and without noticing the relatonship starts to deteriorate because we take each other for granted.
Americanoak: yes that is a very good one, specially for long term relationships.
aintsoobvious: ups... maybe we should start another hub with "what men don't want to hear".
jayorban: LOL yes, they always work :)
raradolly: thanks for sharing a slightly different view.
Albertttt: thanks!
J-ART: easy...
So True feeling and giving real comments from ones heart to your love one is needed so much all the time.( I love the man in my life and I show it and romaticly speak it.Great hub.Thanx
For those of us who've been married forever, it's "Honey, I shopped all day and didn't buy a thing!"
I really dont mean to be rude but when I hear most of those comments or sweet nothings whispered in my ear I sadly find her to be a liar with an actress inside. But on the other hand who doesn't want to be loved and to be told they mean the world to that person. True on some level(everyone wants to be loved)
SwiftlyClean: thanks for your comment; I am sure your partner appreciates your words.
tobey100: LOL
Daniel: It is a shame that you found that... I am sure that there are plenty of women who are 100% sincere when they complement their partners. It is a shame that sometimes women use compliments as a "tool" to get what they want...
Here are a few to add to this list:
"Baby I will follow you anywhere you go."
"All I want to do is make you happy tonight."
"Just relax, you don't have to do anything this time."
"Thank you for loving me how no one else can."
"You are so much better than all the other guys."
Great hub!
geart hub,i realy like it thanks
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Haha, this article is so good that I might print this out and leave a copy in my girlfriend's handbag. This is a must read for any girl.
A compliment should come naturally. For quite a few women at least three out of this lot would come natural or at least I would imagine so. In the meantime...it is the worst kind of jungle out there with cutting vines and man-eating plants. Women have lost the art of good manners in dating. A simple 'no thank you' and leaving it at that is too much like playing fair and honest with someone. I suppose men have also lost something because of this as well.
When my husband is wearing his tight jeans I always ask him to bend over so I can get an even better look at his butt. Never fails, I always get a chuckle out of him. Great hub.
What do Men Want to Hear
Romantic and lovely hub
I want my boyfriend to say and show that he is proud of me. It would make me feel better in what I do.
Love it!! It is great to see a hub that takes into account how easy it really is to get us men all happy and slobbery...basically we are golden retrievers, just feed, water and pet us and we will do anything for you!
I love it when a girl says that she wants to please me. Right on!
Appreciation and compliments (if they are genuine) always go a long way. Not sure about the "you're so sexy when you're hungover" line though!! Great hub Princessa
I think men want to hear that you will not leave them and their loving ways are the best! No other man can do what you do to me!
>>What do Men Want to Hear
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Tonight you choose the hole.:)
Humor always works! You know this is a two way street.
Wow...and this written by a woman. Awesome research, right on!
Testing the comments...
Frankly, the answer to what men want to hear - as little as possible! Anything else is in danger of disturbing the football commentary...
'Spank me Daddy!', lol, works for me. ;)
Great hub, essential reading for any woman who wants to keep her man sweet.
I am so glad you did not have " What are you thinking" hate that one. Great Hub! Happy New Year!
This is an awesome hub! I love that you actually took the time to think of some different phrases (which are great, by the way) that people can use. I actually touched on this subject of appreciation in my recent blog. I wrote about how women often feel more unappreciated than men in relationships, and gave a male's perspective on why that would be. If you want, you can read it and see what you think! Keep hubbing!
I was looking at this hub again and again. I even let my Girlfriend read it to give her some tips lol. She's pretty good at all that though! I just realized I never commented though. Great Hub! I loved the advice and it's very true from a Guy's Perspective@ Happy New Years!!!
i think man just need good support & and friendly atmophere from here other things he will take there own self.......
This is a fantastic hub! I love it! I found this just at a time when I really need it, because I have been trying to figure out wt* I need to be doing differently with my husband. Here it is, all laid out for me just perfectly.
I do compliment him every day, and I thank you all the time, but I think it's not sinking in because it just sounds like I'm being polite, and not like I really mean it. Thanks for this!
Thanks for all your comments, they are very much appreciated it is interesting to read your opinions.
you sure know what I wanted to hear.
Exactly. Thinking about this, it's also what women want to hear! A good article.
Creaminizer23: thanks for the reassurance :)
Recover Today: Yes, we all want to hear a nice word, we all want to know that we are appreciated and loved.
They want to hear that they're not like the rest.
How about: "I just called to say I love you" ? I think that trumps my usual, "Don't forget the diet coke on your way home, honey." Great hub, Princessa - you've just enhanced a bunch of marriages and/or relationships!
I wrote a response to this hub in a hub of my own.
i think your current picture is nicer than the last one by the way.
Great hub,Princessa. I wrote one too! Please visit mine when you have a chance. Give me some feedback. Thanks.
Lol. Spank me Daddy! That's what I say to my hubby too. But the one thing they don't like to hear, at least my hubby, "We have to pay this (fill in the blank) bill this week.
Thanks for all the good ideas!
You came up with a nice hub.Simple works for me.Don't stop now. One more time honey.
Very interesting. I would like to hear more of that from my wife.
DREAM ON: LOL, that's a good one, I can't believe I forgot that one!
antonrosa: it works like a mirror, maybe if you tell her more of these things, she'll start doing the same for you :-)
This hub can be regarded as one of the most intriguing hub. The information shared is interesting one. The tips like I like you, I trust you, you are the best sounds fabulous. The hub will certainly going to strengthen the relationship. The clarity and balance shine from this hub.
stephensaldana: Thanks for sharing your opinion. That is exactly what I was aiming to do, help people strengthen their relationships.
One that is good after sex, that was good enoof to sell.
brag on them in public, build ego.
Never say your almost as good as. LOL
good pay check, daddy brung home the beacan.
right after sex, bingo or hotdawm.
I know I gave two for right after sex, But I like sex.
As someone who recently split with his long-term partner (18 yrs)and having suffered psychological and emotional abuse in the form of very subtle put-downs during the last three years of the relationship, I would give this advice to any woman who wants to enjoy a fulfilling and meaningful with a man.
It doesn't take a lot to make a man feel good; give him (honest) compliments when he deserves them, tell your friends the good things about him, the good things he does and how he makes you feel good whilst he is within earshot.
Finally, avoid put-downs, even those said in "fun". If I may quote the American 19th century author Henry David Thoreau, “The squirrel that you kill in jest, dies in earnest.” You might think it to be a little fun, but those little jibes made in fun can still hurt and, like the story of the boy told to hammer a nail into a fence each time he hurt someone, you may remove the nail with a subsequent kindness, but the hole where it once was remains.
What do men want to hear? The same things as women do, kind words said in earnest.
very nice hub ... i always compliment him and he likes me for that .. even if he is down i am always by his side to encourage him. men also do want to hear sweet words from their partners and the most important they do look for the girl who truly cares for them ..
agree with most of the sentiments here apart from, 'I trust you', which is far too much responsibility to place on any man or woman's shoulders? Trust is a much overated word that I would happily abolish. How do any of us know what's going to happen in the next second, let alone for the rest of our lives? Yup, this one would scare me off...
trust and men dont go together in the same sentence !
Great hub!!! :) :)
I have a very good lady friend.I often make it a point to tell her that I'm honored to have you as a friend.Not all of us men are always feely-touchy.We do have needs.Thanks for sharing this.
Great hub, my best one is the one i hear when i get in from work "your tea is done!"
Great to read about the variety of things that men would like to hear and the things that women say to please their men. Thanks for sharing.
writer83 y do u think is that?
fasam08 and writer83: Come on, I have met plenty of men who I could trust. In fact I DO trust more men than women.
I feel sorry for writer83, you have obviously been badly hurt and betrayed on more than one occasion by men. One of the 10 Rules For A Human Being (anon) states:
"Lessons are repeated until they are learned. A lesson will be presented to you in various forms until you have learned it. When you have learned it, you can go on to the next lesson."
It would appear that, if you have had repeated similar bad experiences with men, then YOU are doing something wrong. This lies either in your sense of self-worth that you repeatedly attract/are attracted to disloyal men, thinking (uncosciously) that you don't deserve any better, or else or else you are not treating them as they feel they should be treated and they begin to look elsewhere for whatever it is that they are not getting from you.
This is not blame, it is reality. Oh, and by the way, it also comes from a man who was faithful to his last partner for nearly fifteen year up until three months after the break-up (at her behest) including one year during which we were situated geographically at opposite ends of the earth and I was working in a field in which I was surrounded by young and, on the most part, fit and attractive women. Prior to the break we had not made love (initially due to her medical condition) more than twice in two years.
There are men in this world who are trustworthy and trusting, I know a good many of them, but you have to deal with whatever is holding you back first.
Good luck & I wish you love.
this is good stuff, in fact while i was reading, i felt like i should tell my man that i love him and appreciate and you know what he had to call me to say thank you and he was so happy. sincerely, today you have made my day. thanks so much for sharing.
You are soooooo right. How to get my wife to read and take this seriously. Hmmm. She's not interested anymore--and won't talk about it. "Later" she says. My patience? How many years?
Gr8legs: That's right, there are lots of men who are trustworthy. I have been lucky to meet many of them. In fact most of my best friends are men including my husband and father.
Susan: I am just so happy to hear that. To know that I made YOU and your partner happy makes it all worth it writing a hub.
Doinwithout: I am really sorry to hear that. Maybe you should try giving some love before you start asking for some. Longtime relationships become stagnant if we don't take care of them. It takes two persons to form an stable and happy relationship. Just waiting passively won't change anything. Maybe you should try giving the first step in restoring intimacy. Good luck and all the best to you!
I'm sorry you got the impression I've been passive. Hardly. Put off? Yes. Notice my comment about "later" as in "not now". I've been hearing this for years.
The first two decades of marriage were lively, impulsive, fun and often safely adventurous. The last decade mostly doing without--and not for my lack of trying.
Please give me a break.
How gently inviting must a guy be?
Doinwithout: I can understand your position but unfortunately I don't know what to say to help you improve your situation. I am afraid that sometimes I am too radical and my advice would be to find someone else who cares about you. Life is too short to be without love and care. If you have tried your best so far and it hasn't work, I would look somewhere else for what is missing.
I think there is one more thing men wud love to listen during intimate moments .
Just repeat his name as much as possible... he feels encouraged to perform better with every call .
Let me think? "Boy that's a Hard One" Hummm
If a woman said to me that she'd like to watch football...then she'd be watching it alone, while I have a deep and meaningful conversation with the coffee machine. And - just to inspire a few more comments on this hugely popular (and cleverly devised topic) - maybe it's more important to ask what men "DON'T" want to hear!
Nope - this is too tempting! - Great hub though! love Max :)
Preethi Anusha: good idea!
psbros139: LOL, if you say so...
Moesky: So what you don't want to hear apart from football talk?
Maxvon: Thanks for the visit.
Russell D is correct. There is only ONE thing men want to hear from a woman in a relationship. THE TRUTH.
Dog On A Mission: maybe...
Men have this certain way of saying stuff whether its romantic or not some try to fuse it together in certian ways...I prefer cereal.
calling your man dady seems gross to me. i dont know...
Except for "spank me, daddy" I think I've done pretty well. Now I need a couple phrases to defuse his frustration when I've really screwed up. Got anything for that?
The Manly Man Named Fluffy (who likes cereal....): I gathered that from your name LOL
the pink umbrella: I know lots of people who do so -including me- Maybe because our partners are much older? Never really thought about it...
brenren57: Start with a compliment, an honest and meaning one that applies to him.
Lol - I guess this is why so many men have an ego, LOL
good read though, thanks for posting it, I would also say a woman would like to hear things very similar ;0)
Really good hub. You included healthy information for many people. I'll try these out in my relationships and see what happens.
great job! men definitely want to hear these things; but don't say it if it's not the truth.
I think the things you say to your man would always depend on his maturity and maybe age, for example my man is 28 - and if i said to him you're amazing and you inspire me, he would be chuffed, however if i said would you like me to use my mouth(to put it nicely)whilst you play on your xbox, i think he might cry. :) Everybody to their own! xX
Great hub! Taking time to appreciate eachother in a relationship is so important. I know all you men love it when we tell you how great you are : )
great hub i think we all need a little apreciation both men and women need to feel loved i use to think men didnt have feelings your hub realy made me think through differnt eyes thanks alot looking foward to reading more from you.
I know that most men that are married just want to hear "hey baby do you want to have sex tonight!!" I think that, is something most women usually don't do but should!
Feelings. Hmmmm. Novel idea that men have feelings? Too often the notion is that men just want the 'act'. Bull. Many --perhaps most-- like a genuine impulsive hug, kisses, kind interest, etc. and not simply to log another org. I finally--I think--got my wife to recognize this and promise to read the resource for a sex starved marriage. She thought I was rushing her until I reminded her that she had the book now for over 8 months and keeping it in a drawer wasn't helping. I am committed to this relationship but there are days when your last suggestion to me is quite tempting. We'll see.
manthy: nothing wrong with caressing a healthy ego...
greenatheart: i think it is very important to give the other person what you expect to receive.
ANGie97: that's right, do not say things that are not true, he will know you are not being honest; besides... what's the point in complimenting him about something that he doesn't have or do?
Sidonie: absolutely, things are very relative. This are only a few suggestions, you must say whatever fits your situation best.
jennshealthstore: we all like to feel appreciated and loved, it is a very important part in a successfull relationship.
"Spank me Daddy" - a personal favorite of mine.
lol some of the stuff is really funny ... do we men really want to hear all that's here? anyway, nice attempt .. must say there's no harm in being appreciated!
My wife and I have been married for 27 years, and for the most part it has been a very positive time, but I now feel very taken for granted, and am thinking about divorce. I know it would probably be the worst decision I could make, but I no longer feel like putting up with her self centered approach. I have seen her through some very difficult times, and do not expect any thanks, but there is always an undercurrent that seems to judge me, and it is tiring. I feel I would rather be tired alone, than feel the emotional drain that she seems to put me through. Menopause was not smooth, and it seems there has been some behavior that she has decided to hold onto that is not at all something I want to be part of. I will probably give it some time, but both men and women are not aware of how their lack of kindness can sabotage even the strongest of love. I am not innocent of this either, but even when I try to be kind it is met with hostility, and I am tired of it. Maybe she would be better off with someone else, someone she could say these nice things to.
REALLY,TOO GOOD. REALLY ROMANTIC AND ENCHANTING. I'LL FOLLOW THIS RULE.
The thing that I love to hear most is when the sun comes up and my man turns over and looks into my eyes and say"GOOD MORNING MAMA".and then smiles. This makes me feel all warm and happy inside. It makes me feel that he's truly happy to have woken up next to me.
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The best way to maintain good relationship is used the word "I love you". Once a while say "I am glad to have you as my husband".
I will just want to here that i love you and i will be with you for all my life.
ahh nice. Cool Hub. :) :)
Princessa, God bless you for this article. You have done a tremendous service for relationships all over this community. I have been married for 11 years now, and nothing pleases me more, or drives me to work harder for my family then the vary phrases you have mentioned. Finally a woman who really understands men. Stupendous!
Hey, I'm desperate for an advice am an African woman married to an American man he is personal trainer, we are married for four years now . We have been separated for two year
And now we are together but he thinks that was bad idea cos it put him in so much money problems and he complain about me not being able to support him emotionally cos of the culture difference how can I support him to save my marriage ? Please help
Okay. I've been patiently contemplating your last advice for me to consider looking elsewhere. I am open but not pursuing. I fear that I may miss an opportune opening simply because I haven't been sent those kind of signals for yearsf and may not even recognize or believe it possible. I now understand better why men hire female escorts or .... It's a sad society we live in that often gets characterized as 'oversexed' when so many women and men hunger for a meaningful relationship in several overlapping areas including sexuality. It's no wonder match-making websites are so inviting and do so well.
Years ago two women--unconnected and years apart--offered/wanted to be my mistress. Each time, I let it drop. I wish I knew where they are now.
My husband likes to hear how much I appreciate him and how great he is - as a husband, a lover, and friend etc...I know he likes it because he always tries to fulfill that role after I say it and does it with a smile ;)
Thanks. :)
I would agree that hearing any of those things from the right woman would be simply awesome, but, call me crude, spank me Daddy works coming from almost any woman.
I think everything has pretty much been covered. I just wanted to say how much iI liked this hub and I hope my wife reads it.
This hub is definitely useful. You put this package together very nicely. I like this. There are lots of creative ways to say complimentary and appreciative things to your man.
The girlfriend is so happy to show me appreciation, and compliment me.. Never having it before, I found it hard to take, but after 7 months, now its a warm mushy feeling inside when she says it. She also has told me, after a 13 year bad marriage where he didn't even notice hair cuts, she loves me complimenting her and tell her how wonderful she is... Think of it as a bank account and you are making a positive deposit, instead of always taking from that account.. p.s the little things you can do for that one, makes big impact on them too...
if you couldn't tell, i am in love!
Could I say those words to other hubby? Loool Just kidding
The truth in as loving a way as possible. :-)
hm. I could add a few.. Entertaining read!
Great hub, and look at what a stir you made! This is so important, as women often compliment each other and get compliments from the kids etc. Men don't do this, they really rely on thier partner for that extra little ego stroke... especially when it comes to compliments on thier appearance.
Good job Princessa, and ladies... go forth and compliment!
In this hub there are lots of creative ways to say, complimentary and appreciative things to your Partner. The basic need of a man is respect and the for a woman is to feel loved.
Nice article that really exposed the secrets to a man's heart.thanks for this great revelation.
Truth, honesty oh and truth! Simple really!
actually it seems like a fight b/w men and women, they never understand each others, women demand for so many things and have different wishes and the husband is trying to fulfill that, but when men demand for something then they are complaining and acting like a child. something doesn't mean ( sex, kisses, badly hugs and so on) there could be good behave and communication, care, emotional thinking, good words)
you know we say give respect get respect,
but most of the women think that when her husband speak well and accept her request it is his need for her, but the fact is that he has good sense and deep love with full respect to her, and she thinks what ever he does it is her rights. in fact as i think they should work together and give respect to each other and understand the meaning of life and living,
I loved your hub....it is refreshing to read about what men want when us women do tend to cluck a bit about what we need and want to hear....:).... did I say cluck? eeek..ofcourse ladies if you find yourself with an odd one as I seem to do often, nothing short of a miracle will make them happy hehe ...am off to read more of your addictive articles D x
I love it when my boyfriend wakes up and says "good morning sunshine" it truly makes my day
You are 100% correct! Men do not get enough praise from women and often feel unappreciated and their self confidence can suffer. They have emotional needs too and you would be surprised just how much you get back with a few words of encouragement and appreciation each day. Thanks for enlightening us!
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I think the biggegest turn on is... hey darling the chip pan is on and i've cooked steak for tea...:}
All of these things just came so natural for me but it was so unwanted, Don't think I will be so eager to show it next time,if there is a next time.
Awww that was absolutely cute and adorable. Lovley hub.
It depends on the man. If u dare use any of those statements on me, you may not know it, but it is the first cue for an au revoir. Don't blame me, I can smell manipulation easily...
Interesting article.
It is not always true that men do not get enough praise from women and often feel unappreciated and their self confidence can suffer.
What a nice hub. Need not to comment. Good job.
Appreciation and encouragement is something that every human irrespective of gender, caste, or creed needs.
True appreciation for mind is like a healthy and balanced diet for body.... making you fit and complete.
While false appreciation is like STEROIDS or VIAGRA..... when you stop it you have devastating results.
Therefore women who truely love their men or are true to themselves and have high morals ..... should ignore stuff like the one above.
and if you strongly support or challenge me..... post this comment on top princessa!!!!
Haha all these phrases strokes my manly ego! All women should read this, there's it not enough ego stroking happening in the world today.
Thanks for the Hub! I'm gonna try some of them out =)
I luv it!!
Voted up!
I love it...I m trying this on my boyfriend
Nice Share. Would like to add few romantic phrases - No matter what may happen , I am there for you , and the best of it all when you are in love - LETS GET MARRIED ( this makes your life )
Thanks :) I have been with my boyfriend for almost 11 years and he has always asked me to say, "Who's your Daddy" and I never feel comfortable trying this, but think I may after reading guys comments that they actually do like it!
I NEED A GIRL WHO CAN MAKE ME HAPPY WHO CAN ALSO GIVE ME ALL OF HER TRUST I MEAN UNDERSTANDING I HAVE BE HERE FOR LONG TIME NOW BUT FOUND NO ONE TO LOVE ME THAT IS WHY I ASKED MYSELF WHY BUT ENCASE IF U DON MIND KNOWING MORE ABOUT ME PLEASE THIS I MY NUMBER +2347028263881
What man want to hear is:
I respect the fact that you are overwhelmed and struggling to make it a better life for us both. I have invited a clean and sexy girl to join us tomorrow night. Get some rest, recharge and we will all have an awesome time even though I don't feel like doing anything other than watching TV and being on the phone all day as usual.
That's what a man wants to hear, appreciation, recognition, respect, reward and a trull self effacing comment like admitting your level of small contribution!
No doubt why there are lot of people commenting in this hub.. as a man, all I want to hear with the woman i love is "you completes me!" sounds cool and great..:)
I will stand by your side, for better and for worse, in sickness and in health, till death do us part!
raburcke: now, that is soooo romantic!
Congratulations Princessa, on a truly fine and longstanding hub. The comments are impressive. I would like to suggest that it isn't always what is said, but often how it is said. (Nothing new there, but meaningful)
For me the following quote sums up the topic:
"Flatter me, and I may not believe you. Criticize me, and I may not like you. Ignore me, and I may not forgive you. Encourage me, and I will not forget you."
- William Arthur Ward
voted up, awesome and interesting!
I think it changes per men! I like to hear your opinion :)
Great hub! I believe men just want honesty... the truth. But you've done a great job here. I voted up!
the 'in sickness and health....' promise is fine. But there is more to a relationship than simply 'standing by' someone. There are spontaneous hugs. Do we get too many? There are loving squeezes. Never too many! And intimacy builds, expresses and sustains. A relationship without intimacy is like dry food without spices.
Great hub!
I would like to hear:
Hug me.
Carry me on your arms.
Help me get dressed / undress.
I like the way you need my body.
I'll show you how to kiss all my body.
I'll show you how to turn me on.
What if we make love every day?
Well all in the name of all because i can not fall for a girl i don't trust!
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OH, I could get into so much trouble here! Hee Hee Hee.
Keep on hubbing!